I heard an interview with Bruce Springsteen about his autobiography from a few years ago. The thing that stayed with me the most was a reference to having absorbed the message growing up that, as a man, he should never let the mask down all the way - always keep...

As humankind moves slowly and unwillingly toward becoming more sensitive and compassionate, more of our damaged softer sides will be coming to the surface to be healed and integrated. No doubt we will still be dealing with the cultural pressure to toughen up, quit...

Not all significant personal growth is experienced as a breakthrough or an event. Some is subtler and takes place in many tiny increments over a long stretch of time. The difficulty with the subtle kind is that we can easily overlook or discount what’s going on, which...

My father had an enormous influence on who I am and who I wanted to be when I was growing up. I carefully copied him, not just because I wanted to be like him, but also because I wanted to understand him better. I hoped that by replicating his actions and attitudes...

I like to collect experiences and examples that illustrate a spiritual lesson. They serve as reference points that help me to connect with the truth of the insight, not just the idea. I use them to remind me what it actually takes to stand in my truth, or make a...

The Sanskrit word Lila loosely translated means “divine play." Play is one of those words we’ve done ourselves the great disservice of oversimplifying. We’ve let it become something we regard as childish, frivolous, un-serious. Even if we appreciate the potential for...

“That might be the best answer I’ve heard.” That’s what I thought recently when a prospective client was explaining to me why she wanted to do this work. She was going through a crisis in her life that was showing up in a variety of ways but centered on the very...

Why can’t we agree on things that used to seem obvious? Why are people betraying so many of the values they used to cling to? Why is lying, hypocrisy, and hate so flagrant and unapologetic now? Let’s get back to that in a minute, ok? I remember being on the phone with...

Have you noticed a big letdown recently? It shows up in a lot of different forms, but I think they’re all related. -Eve did a great job of keeping her business going even when it seemed unlikely. Now things have stabilized and are even on the upswing. Unfortunately,...

My friend was telling me she felt stuck with the masculine version of God. She didn’t agree with it intellectually. It didn’t make any sense to her. She felt God must be all things, including gender (and no gender). But she still couldn’t override the default setting...

In 1987, a woman named Pat Schroeder gave a speech announcing that she was ending her campaign for the presidency. It was unusual for a woman to run at all in those days so that drew some notice. But what really got their attention? She cried. That was a disqualifier....

I found out my friend has ALS. I didn’t respond right away. I postponed, I avoided, I tried to get used to the idea. I finally sent the “can we talk” text. And when he agreed, when I knew we were going to talk...then came the grief. It took me days to move through all...

Last week I attended an online event where one of the presenters was breakthrough play consultant Gary Ware. He led us through some games that had no immediate goal - what I mean by that is, there was nothing to win or lose, nobody was keeping score, and there was...

Did anybody get what they really wanted out of the election? Yes, the Presidency will change hands, and I in no way mean to downplay that. But I think both sides were really dreaming of a total repudiation of the other. We hoped that the results would reveal that many...

A week or so before the election, I heard a political reporter interpreting some polling. He was making the point that the information gave a pretty clear indication of what results we could expect, and that if this were any other election, we would feel pretty...

Our personal and cultural mythologies are very powerful. And when they get disrupted, the results can be both transformative and chaotic.   For the last four years, many of us have wondered what it would take to bring Trump down. He has broken every rule, norm, and...