A damaged childhood is the most common experience among the many gifted spiritual seekers I have worked with. Early trauma doesn't cause a spiritual connection, it's actually the opposite. There are people whose life purpose is to channel large amounts of spirit into...

Does history repeat itself? I would say yes and no. I see the world in waves, levels and cycles. That means things constantly come around again, but they aren't exactly the same the next time - you might be on a different level this time or you might approach it...

"When I was doing ['Girls & Sex'] the kind of core issue with girls was that they were being cut off from their bodies and not understanding their bodies' response and their needs and their limits and their desires," she says. "With boys, it felt like they were...

What if I said that most, if not all, of the struggles we face in the world today are related to the fact that we live in a patriarchy? Sound hyperbolic? Politics, religion, the economy, the environment, the media, our social structures, education, are all based on...

The Destroyer is currently engaged with many countries simultaneously, and they are not unrelated. I have received some requests to continue with the theme of the archetypal Destroyer. First, I'll get more specific about how it shows up for a collective identity. In...

You're a big weirdo. You may not think of yourself that way, but if you're reading this it's almost certain that in your family, your community, and your life in general, you are something of an outsider. Maybe not in a painful way. Maybe in a way that you heavily...

Last time I talked about how many of the constructs that we have depended on to structure and make sense of our world are disappearing. The social, political, economic, environmental, and spiritual norms we are so used to are crumbling because we have resisted letting...

You can feel how this isn't an ordinary historical moment, can't you? We seem to be completing a full cycle that brings us back to a transitional juncture we last experienced in the 60s. That was the last time we collectively entertained the possibility of significant...

What has been the most challenging spiritual lesson, principle, or law for you? It's different for each of us. Faith or trust comes naturally to some of us and feels like risking death to others. How about humility? Patience? Oneness? Each has its own particular...

How would you define a soul mate? Whether one actually exists or not, almost all of us would say that it's that person I'm meant to be with. It's my one true love (not necessarily romantic), possibly across lifetimes, right? Well I don't disagree. You couldn't talk me...

You will fulfill all your soul contracts in this life. The question is, at what level? In light or in shadow? Before you incarnate, you create all kinds of agreements about what issues you will explore, with whom, and how. There's lots of flexibility and choice, but...

A few months ago, I heard a song that got stuck in my head. The lyrics were a mantra that is repeated over and over: I am the light of the soul. I am bountiful. I am beautiful. I am bliss. I am, I am. What stands out to me most is the statement "I am bliss." Our soul,...

Many years ago my girlfriend at the time introduced a new idea into our ongoing argument about why our relationship wasn't working. She got it from a former roommate of mine. They had been exploring her side of the argument - which was, of course, that it was all my...

I suppose a more accurate way to put that might be to say some of us have a more direct connection. For those that have a harder time tuning in and hearing a deeper truth, there is always the option of looking around and seeing what is being mirrored back from your...

"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function." -F Scott Fitzgerald The worlds of your soul and your identity only overlap somewhat. There are many versions of...

A while back a client of mine repeated something she had heard: "Energy follows patterns." I have been repeating this phrase ever since. It helps explain how, among other things, habitual responses, dysfunctional dynamics, and seemingly inescapable cycles get locked...

I want to share a prominent theme that has consistently come up around many of my clients for a while now. I talk (and write) a lot about seeing the world in terms of energy, the value of sensitivity, and the importance of consciousness in spiritual work. This relates...

It has been very easy and convenient in the last decade to dump on Millennials - they're too sensitive, entitled, and selfish. To a large degree I think this has to do with how previous generations feel about things like hazing or spanking. "We had to put up with it...

Kyle is like a lot of clients I've talked to over the years. We had been working to intentionally maneuver him through a "spiritual growth spurt." We focused on minimizing resistance and struggle in order to open him up to the highest possible good of the experience....