The F Word

A while ago I was listening to an interview with a top executive coach. He was asked what CEOs' #1 obstacle was, and to my surprise, he identified their top issue as fraudulence. But I shouldn't have been surprised. Why would they be any different from the rest of us?...

You Gonna Trust Me or Your Lyin’ Eyes?

So often, when my clients are struggling or stuck, they look at their situation and see no solutions. All they can come up with are bad options, pressure from deadlines, dwindling resources and evidence of their own shortcomings and failures. This, of course, makes...

I Think You’re Me

A while back in a post entitled, "I Think I'm Me," I discussed ways in which we are hurt by our family's inability to see us and give us what we feel we need. If we can get past the unskillful delivery of what they did provide, however, we can receive some of the...

I Think I’m Me

When Amy was small she used to go on about all the things she'd fantasized she was going to be and do when she grew up. To this day she can still hear her parents' voices in her head "Just who do you think you are?" And it still keeps her small. Gene was always...

What’s My Story?

I get some news from a family member. There's a potentially bad outcome developing in a situation we were waiting to hear about. It hasn't happened, but it looks like it might be headed in the wrong direction. I feel my energy shift, my breathing quickens, my chest...

Yes, Mike, More is More. But More of What?

Let's look at how Mike (remember Mike?) can benefit from what we know so far. Mike's Saboteur is trying to show him the habits and beliefs that do not serve his conscious intentions. Unfortunately, like most of us, he has not interpreted the information that way. In...

Mike’s Saboteur – COME ON DOWN!

I want to look at a version of self-sabotage that is different than the last example. In the previous case Mary knew she was in her own way and didn't fully understand how, why or what to do about it. In Mike's case he does not see himself as the obstacle and is...

Sabotaging Mary’s Saboteur

Now that Mary is starting to get a sense of how the Saboteur works in her case, what can she actually do with this information? First, she can organize the information to help her anticipate, or at least recognize, when and how the Saboteur is likely to attack. For...

Mary’s Saboteur – COME ON DOWN!

It's one thing to understand the basic Saboteur formula: possibility –> go unconscious –> habit –> no responsibility It's quite another to know how to recognize it in your own situation. Let's look at an example to hopefully illustrate how to start to apply...

How to Sabotage Yourself in 4 Easy Steps

At this point I hope you have a pretty good sense of who the Saboteur is and why he (or she) does what he (or she) does. To benefit from the information he (or she) is trying to provide (obstacles and issues you would need to address in order to get to the next...

Saboteur Episode IV: A New Hope

I can't tell you how often I get to a point in session with a client where they have just shared some details about the difficult situation they are struggling with and I say something like, "I know this may not make sense from where you sit, but this is actually...

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