Comments on: All Or Nothing Gets Me Nowhere http://christophercarrick.com/all-or-nothing-gets-me-nowhere/ Just another WordPress weblog Mon, 17 Oct 2011 23:54:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Christopher http://christophercarrick.com/all-or-nothing-gets-me-nowhere/comment-page-1/#comment-193 Christopher Tue, 22 Sep 2009 22:21:04 +0000 http://christophercarrick.com/?p=280#comment-193 Hi Pam, What you are describing is a very good example of taking a "negative", in this case discomfort with tension and fear of imagined consequences, and making it your ally. These feelings can serve as a prompt to make a choice from a higher place. It's as though you had an alarm that tells you your car has gone into a skid and your habit upon hearing it was to panic and turn away from the skid. By changing your relationship to the alarm, it can instead serve as a call to consciousness allowing you to choose, counterintuitively but constructively, to turn in the direction of the skid. Thanks for visiting Hi Pam,
What you are describing is a very good example of taking a “negative”, in this case discomfort with tension and fear of imagined consequences, and making it your ally. These feelings can serve as a prompt to make a choice from a higher place. It’s as though you had an alarm that tells you your car has gone into a skid and your habit upon hearing it was to panic and turn away from the skid. By changing your relationship to the alarm, it can instead serve as a call to consciousness allowing you to choose, counterintuitively but constructively, to turn in the direction of the skid.

Thanks for visiting

]]> By: Pam Grace http://christophercarrick.com/all-or-nothing-gets-me-nowhere/comment-page-1/#comment-192 Pam Grace Tue, 22 Sep 2009 21:32:42 +0000 http://christophercarrick.com/?p=280#comment-192 Love this one! Were you writing about me?? I have a long history of conflict avoidance. Now my practice is when I feel avoidance coming on, I do the opposite. The interesting thing is the result is not nearly as dramatic or traumatic as I thought it would be! Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Peace Pam Love this one! Were you writing about me?? I have a long history of conflict avoidance. Now my practice is when I feel avoidance coming on, I do the opposite. The interesting thing is the result is not nearly as dramatic or traumatic as I thought it would be!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
Peace
Pam

]]> By: Anne Partain http://christophercarrick.com/all-or-nothing-gets-me-nowhere/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Anne Partain Sat, 11 Apr 2009 21:13:12 +0000 http://christophercarrick.com/?p=280#comment-104 Very interesting perspective. It reminds me of the story of the frog placed in a pan of cold water. When you turn the fire on and the water gets hotter and hotter the frog could jump out at any time, but instead he just sits in the pan and boils to death. Good post, thanks. Very interesting perspective. It reminds me of the story of the frog placed in a pan of cold water. When you turn the fire on and the water gets hotter and hotter the frog could jump out at any time, but instead he just sits in the pan and boils to death.
Good post, thanks.

]]> By: paul http://christophercarrick.com/all-or-nothing-gets-me-nowhere/comment-page-1/#comment-87 paul Fri, 10 Apr 2009 21:39:28 +0000 http://christophercarrick.com/?p=280#comment-87 Interesting post and timely. I just had an experience I wanted to avoid facing. A friend who's negative comments often stick in my head wrote, something that hurt, claiming I'm completely self centered. His other comments are usually curt and macho, like" oh just get over it, cut out the new age crap." It bothers me, especially since his judgement stays in my head and I use it to judge myself harshly. My first impulse is to respond in anger, so I don't. My next impulse is to pull back from him, which i do. I could let him go as a friend, he's negative why deal with him. Where I get stuck is feeling he keeps making me wrong so i want to make him wrong -- so I go into trance. Now, after readingt his. I'll have to do something. Thank you Chris, may i have another? Interesting post and timely. I just had an experience I wanted to avoid facing. A friend who’s negative comments often stick in my head wrote, something that hurt, claiming I’m completely self centered. His other comments are usually curt and macho, like” oh just get over it, cut out the new age crap.” It bothers me, especially since his judgement stays in my head and I use it to judge myself harshly. My first impulse is to respond in anger, so I don’t. My next impulse is to pull back from him, which i do. I could let him go as a friend, he’s negative why deal with him. Where I get stuck is feeling he keeps making me wrong so i want to make him wrong — so I go into trance.
Now, after readingt his. I’ll have to do something. Thank you Chris, may i have another?

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