I find our definition of the Saboteur changes as our relationship to it evolves. In the first stage we admit we have a problem and are powerless over it before cross-addicting onto sugar and caffeine. In other words, you know you are in your own way but you don’t know why or what to do about [...]

For a while now I have been focused on my clients’ struggles with self-sabotage. We seem to present ourselves with more obstacles than every other person, system and institution in our lives combined. When I first mention it to people, they frequently self-identify unhesitatingly. “Oh, I definitely have that problem – I am my own [...]